The following was recorded from a conversation I had with a friend marked HL. I am marked CS. She shared with me a proverb she was told growing up from her Grandmother.
HL: “If you get on the bus to Cincinnati, don’t be surprised when you get to Cincinnati.”
CS: “And how would you translate this proverb?”
HL: “Basically, if you have sex outside of marriage and you’re not on the pill, don’t be surprised when you have a kid.”
CS: “Was this proverb said often in your house?”
HL: “So like my grandma used to say that to my mom when she was a teenager, and now that I’m getting older she says it to me. And of course my mom always says it to make fun of her.”
CS: “Do you think she really believes in that proverb?”
HL: “Yeah. 100%.”
CS: “Do you think you’ll tell your kids that saying?”
HL: “No. Only to give them more information about their great grandma. I’ve also never been to Cincinnati and don’t plan on it.”
HL is currently a freshman at the University of Southern California. She grew up in Mission Viejo, California in a family with a strong Catholic background.
An in person conversation at a local coffee shop.
What I found so fascinating about this proverb was merely that I completely misinterpreted it until HL further explained its meaning. Initially, I would have translated the proverb to simply being if you make a choice, or have a wish, don’t be surprised when that decision has consequences or the wish comes true. However, I was clearly way off from its actual meaning, or at least the meaning has for her family. I also found this proverb to be unique in the sense that I haven’t heard of a saying quite like that before that seems to have such a true-to-life and almost blunt, candid undertone.