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10. Iranian Weddings

My informant shared various Iranian wedding traditions with me, more notably ones that were done at her own wedding.  My informant discussed the “aghd” which is the legal ceremony that takes place before the reception. The aghd takes place by the sofreh, which is a table, or setting that has symbolic items placed on it. My informant said that during the ceremony the couple is seated at the foot of the Sofreh, facing the mirror that is placed at the front of the Sofreh. My informant then said that after the couple exchanges rings that they dip their fingers in honey. The husband licks the honey off the wife’s finger and vice versa. The honey is supposed to symbolize the start of their marriage with sweetness and love. After the I-dos it is tradition for the families to give the couple gifts such as gold coins and jewelry.

The items on the sofreh are supposed to protect the couple from harm. Some of the items include: a bowl of gold coins which represent health and prosperity, tray of herbs and spices are meant to protect the couple from evil, there is a copy of the Koran (Muslin holy book), decorated flat bread which symbolizes success for the couple’s life, an assortment of pastries, and pomegranates which symbolize hope for a joyous forthcoming. My informant said that the most important item on the sofreh is the mirror that is placed on the table. The mirror represents fate, and the groom is supposed to see his wife in the mirror for the first time after he takes off her veil.

What really stuck with me after listening to my informant was the way in which the wedding is celebrated. Like most other cultures, weddings are a huge celebration. However in Iranian culture, it is much more of an over the top party.

Persian New Year

 

My informant shared with me some of the traditions her and her family celebrate during Persian New Year. According to my informant a few days before Nowruz (which in Farsi means new year), they set up a ceremonial table called a haf-seen.  In Farsi haf-seen literally means seven S’s. This haf-seen includes seven different plates which all have different items placed on them. The haf-seen is set up on a special cover, which is either placed on the floor or on top of a table. The symbolic dishes consist of Sabzeh, which are sprouts that represent rebirth, Samanu which is pudding that represents affluence, Seeb (apple) that represents health and beauty, Seer (garlic) which represents medicine, Somaq, which represents the color of sunrise, and Serkeh (vinegar), which represents age and patience. Other things are also set on the Sofreh, which is essentially the setting where the Haf-seen is set up, also includes other items. According to my informant some of these items may include coins which represent wealth, eggs which represent fertility, live gold fish which represent life, a mirror which represents images of creation, and two candle sticks which are places on both sides of the mirror that represent happiness and enlightenment.

My informant then went on to say that after the New Year is announced people hug and kiss, like Americans do on New Year. Then for a few days following the New Year people go to the homes of their family and friends, this is called Eid-Deedanee. The younger children receive money or presents from the adult’s whose home they are visiting. Usually money is kept in the Koran and children take money from it.

Also, traditionally on the night before New Year my informant and her family eat a traditional meal called Sabzi Pollo Mahi. This dish is a rice cooked with herbs, served with smoked fish. She said that it is common for Koukou Sabzi, which is a mixture of fresh herbs with eggs, which can either be fried or baked to also be served. In her family, her grandmother typically makes this meal, simple because she is the best chef in the family.

My informant then went on to talk about Seezdah Bedhar. She told me that on the thirteenth day of the New Year families usually go to the park where they have a picnic with their family and friends. At the end of the picnic you are supposed to throw out the sabzeh (which was part of the traditional haf-seen at home) the sabzeh is supposed to have collected all the sick and bad energy that was on the path of the family for the approaching year. My informant also told me that a popular tradition on Seezdah Bedhar is knotting the blades of grass by young unmarried girls in the hope to marry soon. Knotting the grass represents love and the bond between a man and a woman.

Chaharshambe-Suri

 

According to my informant, before Nowruz (Persian new year, which is celebrated on the first day of Spring) there is Chaharshambe-suri (Wednesday Feast), which is the fire jumping festival. Chaharshambe means Wednesday and Suri means red. The celebrations usually start in the early evening. Family and friends typically go to each other’s homes and jump over burning logs that are lined up in front of each other. While they jump over these logs they sing a song which translates into English as  “my yellow is yours, your red is mine”. Basically this means the fire is taking all of the bad things away from you, such as illness, and problems and replacing them with warmth and energy, which are symbolic of the red flame.

The person I interviewed said that this she really enjoys this night because it brings all of her family and close friends together. Before they jump over the burning logs they eat traditional Persian food, which consists of beef and chicken kabob, a variety of different rice dishes, and different stews. Towards the end of the night they drink sweet Persian tea, which she described as tasting similar to earl grey tea. There is no significance between the food and jumping over the logs, it is merely part of her personal tradition of the evening.

Slovakian Easter

 

In Slovakia on Easter men splash women with a bucket of cold water because water is a symbol of purity. Splashing the girls is supposed to keep them pretty, wise, healthy, and pure. Women are also whipped by men with wicker sticks. It is also part of the tradition for women to give men hard-boiled eggs and to tie a ribbon around the top of their whips. These customs are believed to purify the soul and the body; they are the remains of an intricate system of Slovak folk traditions based around the seasons of the year. When the tradition first began it was common to throw women in the town’s river. Now it is more common to throw a bucket of water on women or to spray them with scented water.