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Igbo Wedding Wine-Carrying Ceremony

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In a traditional Igbo wedding, one of the most significant moments is the bride’s wine-carrying ritual. During this part of the ceremony, the bride walks through a crowd of guests with a cup of palm wine in her hand, searching for her groom. The setting is usually vibrant and loud, with friends and family cheering her on, sometimes trying to distract her. When she finally finds her groom, she kneels before him and offers him the wine. If he accepts and drinks from the cup, it symbolizes that he is her chosen partner. The bride then leads him back to her father to formally introduce him, sealing their union in front of the community.

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My informant is a friend who is Nigerian American and identifies strongly with her Igbo heritage. She described attending a relative’s traditional wedding in Nigeria, where she witnessed this ceremony firsthand. Although she was born and raised in the U.S., her family regularly engages with cultural traditions, especially during weddings and other life cycle events. She explained that the wine-carrying ritual stood out to her because it was both symbolic and deeply emotional. It was a moment where tradition, family, and personal choice intersected. Her mother and aunties explained the meaning behind the ritual, noting how it expresses the bride’s respect for her future husband and her agency in choosing him.

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This wedding tradition is important because it shows the values of respect, family, and community. When the bride kneels and gives the wine to her groom, it shows that she respects him and chooses him. Even though it’s a fun and joyful moment, it also has a serious meaning, it brings both families together and shows that marriage is a decision made with love and support. For people like my friend, who grew up in the U.S. but have Nigerian roots, seeing or taking part in this ritual is a way to stay connected to their culture and honor where they come from.

‘Spraying’ Money on the Bride

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At Nigerian weddings, especially among Yoruba and Igbo families, there’s a tradition called “spraying” where guests throw or place money on the bride and groom as they dance. My friend described it as a moment where the music is playing loudly, and everyone crowds the dance floor to celebrate the couple. People use small bills, often $1s or $5s, and place them gently on the bride’s head or shoulders while she dances. Sometimes the groom gets sprayed too, but it’s more focused on the bride. Someone is usually assigned to pick up the money and keep it safe. The mood is exciting, and the spraying is seen as a way of showing love, joy, and support.

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I interviewed my friend who is Nigerian-American and has attended several Nigerian weddings, both in the U.S. and in Nigeria. She said she first saw money-spraying as a kid at her cousin’s wedding and thought it looked like “a fun way to make it rain.” But now that she’s older, she sees it as something deeper. She said, “It’s not just about the money … it’s our way of saying we’re proud of you, we’re happy for you, and we’re blessing your marriage.” She also mentioned that it brings people together, elders, friends, everyone joins in. Even if someone doesn’t have much money, they’ll still spray a little just to be part of the celebration.

Interpretation:

This tradition showcases the communal nature of weddings in Nigerian culture. It’s not just about two individuals getting married, but about the whole community showing up to support them. Spraying money is a public display of care and pride, and it helps preserve cultural practices even for Nigerians living abroad. In the U.S., continuing this tradition at weddings creates a sense of connection to home and heritage. It also flips the usual Western expectation of giving money privately in a card. Here, it’s done out loud, in front of everyone, as part of the celebration itself. This reflects a cultural value of openness and generosity