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“Light of a Loved One”

Context: During the discussion, a student explained the procedural aspects of her Bat Mitzvah–a Jewish coming-of-age celebration marking the transition into adulthood.

Text:

“There’s a part of it where–I don’t know if there’s a specific name for it, I just kind of call it the candle ceremony–you get to the process of lighting 13 candles, and it’s supposed to represent people close to you. With every candle, you’re supposed to invite up a person or multiple people that mean something to you. You invite each person up, and you give, kind of like a little anecdote of, like, why you’re inviting them up.

So I had my different friends, my parents, my grandparents, my cousins, and people I grew up with. They come up and each lights the candle with you.”

Analysis:

I have never heard the details of Bat Mitzvahs and found this particular part of the ceremony heart-warming. The practice itself is very precious and important to many of my Jewish friends as well, and it reminds me of similar occasions, such as weddings. My classmate explained that this is part of the ceremony and that there’s a party that follows — very similar to weddings, where they officially get married before the reception. I think that these rituals marking phases in people’s lives are really interesting, and it’s really interesting to see how families come together to celebrate these milestones at certain age points.

Bat Mitzvah

Age: 21

Text: “In the Jewish religion, the really religious people, Orthodox, celebrate it differently. In those cases, the girls don’t actually have Bat Mitzvahs because they’re technically not supposed to read the Torah. But I did because my family’s more reformed. So I obviously had a Bat Mitzvah, and I thought it was the biggest deal ever at the time. It obviously still is, but I thought it was the biggest deal. There was a lot of preparation before because I had to learn like five passages from the Torah and actually learn how to read it. In the Torah it’s hard to read because there’s no accents or anything so you kind of have to know what you’re saying to be able to read it. But it was really, really fun. And then after my service, I had a party, and it was really fun.”

Context: A Jewish girl from Miami. She had her Bat Mitzvah when she was 12, which is a coming of age ritual in Judaism. The Bat Mitzvah is a celebration and transition of girlhood into adulthood. The boy equivalent is a Bar Mitzvah.

Analysis: It was interesting to hear the difference between her Bat Mitzvah and an Orthodox Bar Mitzvahs, especially that Bat Mitzvahs actually don’t exist for Orthodox Jews due to their beliefs. Her Bat Mitzvah is remembered as a very big deal, which is representative of the importance of this ritual. She was excited for this coming-of-age ritual, studied and practiced for it, and completed it with a celebration. She will pass down this religious tradition to her children, as her parents did to her.

Matzo Ball Soup

Age: 21

Text
“My dad’s side of the family is Jewish so they had a lot of like food and meals that they would eat either for special occasions or like just throughout the year because it’s like Jewish food. And the one that’s carried through to my immediate family is matzo ball soup because it’s a really good remedy for like a cold or just general sickness normally in the winter so the cultural tradition here is getting lots of matzo ball soup and using it as like a cure to sickness when we’re not feeling well.”

Context
ML says that not a ton of Jewish customs carried over to her immediate family, but matzo ball soup was one that did because of their belief in its comforting and curing powers. She remembers eating it when her or her sister were sick, and she said that eating it did make her feel better.

Analysis
ML’s story is an example of material culture, specifically foodways, as well as folk medicine. The tradition of eating matzo ball soup contains religious and traditional values in her family, but also showed a long standing belief in its remedial and comforting powers. ML notes that not many other Jewish meals or traditions were passed on to her family, showing that some beliefs or pieces of folklore are stronger or hold more meaning and are able to be passed on more easily even as other traditions of the same folk group fade away. For ML, this belief was enforced by evidence, as she said that eating matzo ball soup did genuinely make her and her sister feel better, which only serves to enforce the folk belief. ML’s story with the soup is a great example of Kaptchuk’s discussion on healing rituals, as the soup represented a sensory experience, family, and hope along with the nutritional value, all of which combined to comfort ML. I think this is a very powerful idea, because my mom would make a specific noodle dish when my brothers and I were not feeling well, but I remember the love and the care that the meal represented more than how I felt after eating it.

Plastic Covered Furniture

Text:

“Whenever new furniture was bought, they would immediately be covered in plastic”

Context:

In my dad’s Italian family, when new furniture was purchased and moved into the house, it was immediately encased in plastic. My mother had similar experiences at her Jewish friends’ homes.

Analysis:

The ritual of covering new furniture in plastic is a common, repeated & patterned practice found among Mediterranean immigrants. Many Mediterranean immigrants were fleeing poverty & crime, coming to America with next to nothing. Because of that, new things were a rare commodity. My dad only had hand-me-down clothes, shoes, anything until he was in high school and got his first NEW pair of sneakers. So, whenever something new was bought with hard-earned money, immigrant families wanted to keep it as new and clean as possible. It was a symbol of pride, success, and hard-work paying off, and immigrants wanted to preserve it.

“The Hebrew Baby-naming ceremony” 

Nationality: American

Age: 22

Occupation: Student 

Residence: Orange County, CA, USA

Date: 4/30/2025

Language: English

Description: 

When you’re Jewish and you’re a baby, your parents are supposed to take you to Temple for, like the baby naming ceremony. What that means is you get your Hebrew name. It’s like a really big deal, and you do it in front of the whole congregation, and they give you like a little pamphlet thing that has your name. So, when I did it, I did it with my sister who was a baby at the time, which means that I was a lot older, which is not super common. But it was also just kind of like there was something very collective about doing it with my sister that made it kind of nice. When you have your baby naming thing, they have a blessing, but I can’t really remember what it is. And then you get your name. So essentially, like, my dad had his baby name. Which I don’t really remember what it was…it’s bat Matityahu something. So, basically, what they do is they’ll take your dad’s name if you’re a girl, and they’ll translate your name from English into, like Hebrew, and then they’ll name you after your father. So, like my Hebrew name is bat Matityahu, which means daughter of Matthew. I don’t remember what my sisters is…her name is Alexa, daughter of Matthew, too. 

Subject’s opinion:

Subject: I always have issues with that, because I always wanted my own name. I wanted to be separate from my dad. Because when you’re a boy, you get your own name. It’s separate from your parent. So, my dad’s is different from his dad’s, etc, etc, etc. Um, I think it’s. 

Interviewer: How does that reflect on the culture? 

Subject: It’s a very communal experience. So when you’re named when you have your Hebrew name at your Bat Mitzvah. When you’re called to read the Torah, you’re called by your Hebrew name. So, like when I had to go up for my Bar Mitzvah, they didn’t say. Uh, reading passage three is [redacted subject name], it was…they have a chant that they sing, and then they sing, uh, your name. It is kind of one of those things that plays into every facet of your life as you get older in the temple or, like, in the cult Hebrew culture. And it’s not something that’s talked about a lot until it’s kind of…necessary to be talked about. So, like when my dad had to come up and read a blessing from my Bat Mitzvah, he was called by his Hebrew name, his. His brother was called by his Hebrew name. It’s just that’s kind of how it is, so it’s when you’re in that space. Everyone also has that alternate name in a way. Oh yeah, just kind of, I don’t know. It’s kind of communal, and it’s not really ever talked about. It’s just. You’re kind of aware that if you’re there and you’ve had a Bat Mitzvah, you have a Hebrew name. 

Analysis: 

The subject highlighted both her intimacy with this Jewish tradition as well as her sense of emotional distance from the roots of the ritual. By reflecting on her role as a passive participant in this communal experience urged on by her family, the subject’s exposure to her cultural heritage is palpable, which clearly led to increased curiosity about her family’s past as a Jewish-American.