D.F. – “Every year, my family and I go to my Grandfather’s house in Oceanside CA for thanksgiving. And during the beginning of that week, my Aunt and her family fly in from MN to start cooking. That’s usually a Monday or a Tuesday. They start preparing that early. Sometimes we come Wednesday night before thanksgiving, but usually most of us come on the Thursday morning. My family usually says that we’re gonna leave by 8:30, but we always leave like a half hour later. And then we get to oceanside, an hour and a half away, and my Mom is always in charge of the appetizers, and she usually has too many appetizers, all from Costco, and they all have to be KOSHER. And then, the other families get there. And then, we all bet what time my uncle and his family are gonna get there because they’re always late. So then everyone puts down bets for what time he’ll get there, minute by minute, I’ve won a few times. Once they get there, that’s the pause in the day when we have to figure out what we’re going to do because that’s when everyone’s cooking and they don’t like it when everyone is in the kitchen. So my cousins and I go play pool at my Grandpa’s senior living house thing. I didn’t get to start doing that until I was 14 because that was the minimum age; I was really excited. We play pool for a little while, are forced to come home, everyone sits down at the dinner table (about 25 of us).”
“There are a few people who are assigned to bring in food from the table, and it’s very important that if you did not get asked to do this, that you sit down. We start with appetizers; now, don’t forget that we already had appetizers, but now we have these sweet&sour meat-balls that my grandma used to make for dinner appetizers. Sometimes we have matzah ball soup sometimes, if my aunt is up for it. My other aunt always makes small challahs for everyone.”
“Everyone goes in a circle throughout the meal, saying what they’re thankful for, that year, in front of everyone. Eating ends. My brother and I get s**t every year for not helping clean up enough.”
“. . . My other aunt is always in charge of the deserts. They’re never very good. After desert, we all take our family photo every year on my grandfather’s couch.”
Such structure. This is in many ways similar to my own Thanksgiving memories, but this seems to have a lot more structure. My family is pretty tightly wound, but every year, thanksgiving is a very laid-back holiday. It seems that this is not the case in this household. Thanksgiving festivities are among the most prominent folkloric experiences in the United States, as most people who live in the country choose to celebrate with loved ones and friends. It’s interesting not only to see how similar everyone’s Thanksgivings are, but also to examine how the days often differ. Also, it’s fascinating that this person’s religion intertwines here with their nationality. Even on a holiday such as Thanksgiving, when one’s religion is largely unimportant, her food must remain kosher.