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How’s tricks?

Age: 19

Text: How’s tricks?

Context: My informant learned this question from his dad. Growing up, instead of asking him how he was, his dad would ask him “How’s tricks?” He claims this question can be used anytime in a casual setting as a replacement for the question “How are you?” He equated asking this question to asking a close friend or family member “What’s up?” My informant has only ever been asked this by his dad, and on several occasions when he has tried to ask his friends “How’s tricks?” they had not heard the question before and did not understand what he was asking. He admitted that he does not know the origin of the question or what the word ‘tricks’ refers to. 

Analysis: After doing some quick research, there seems to be a general understanding that ‘tricks’ in this question refers to card tricks or magic. “How’s tricks?”, therefore, seems to be a shortened version of asking a magician or card game player “How are your tricks going?” As this question has evolved to be used in a daily manner separate from card games or magic, it has taken on the more general meaning “How’s it going?” The informal nature of this question suggests that it can be used to set a more casual tone in a conversation than asking “How are you?” might establish. 

Traditional, Familial Greeting

Language: English

Age: 20 

Date of performance: 02/11/2025

Language: English

Nationality: American

Occupation: Student 

Primary Language: English

Context– A is a sophomore studying Human Biology on a pre-medical track. When asked if there are any traditions within his family, he told me that his mom’s side in Mexico typically greets all loved ones with smothers of kisses on the cheek. A says that it started in their family generations ago, and is now happening through his grandparents. However, he tells me that “it isn’t a generational thing, more of a grandparental thing. I don’t think it will be carried on by descendants”. He doesn’t see himself or his sister carrying on the tradition.

Analysis– Within folklore, tradition is a contemporary & observable form of action that represents a past. A’s familial tradition of kissing on the cheek as a greeting for loved ones represents a tradition his grandparents have implemented within the family because it is ongoing and represents their past as it reflects what their parents used to do to them and their family members. Personally, I see similar actions within my family as my stepmom’s family greets in a similar style, however, they do light air kisses on the cheek instead of smothering us in kisses. This can be seen as an oicotype because both my family and A’s family share the characteristic of being Hispanic and a similar way of greeting is tradition for both families, just in a slightly different way. 

Head Nod Gesture

Nationality: American

Primary Language: English

Other Language(s): N/A

Age: 21

Occupation: Student

Residence: Los Angeles, CA

Performance Date: 02/17/2024

N.N is 21 years old and is from Burbank, CA. I am close friends with N.N and asked him to tell me about any gestures that he uses and is familiar with. N.N tells me about a gesture he has been using since becoming a teenager. 

“When I was younger,” N.N. recounted, “I saw N (his brother)’s friend, who typically didn’t speak much to me, nodding their heads slightly downward when they passed by me at school. It seemed like a way for them to acknowledge my existence, even in silence. Over time, I adopted this gesture myself and began to see it as a sign of respect or acknowledgment. It’s something I’ve noticed guys do pretty often when they meet each other, almost like a form of introduction or to recognize each other’s presence. I think it’s a way of showing that you notice people, even those you aren’t close to, ensuring they don’t feel ignored, particularly if they are strangers”.

This is a gesture that I am familiar with since I’ve seen other guys do this as well, mostly younger guys among my age range. This slight nod among men is a subtle, non-verbal form of communication. It’s about acknowledging others quietly. Culturally, I believe it’s tied to masculine norms, social etiquette, and a sense of informal familiarity. 

Russian Greeting Ritual: Never Shake Hands Through a Doorway

Original Text: “My family has a lot of different customs. And a big part of Russian culture is in the greeting. Basically, whenever you greet someone you have to shake hands and make eye contact. That’s specifically for men like they shake hands. If it’s a man and a woman, you shake hands but more gently. If it’s two women they kiss on the cheek three times. But for men shaking hands, basically, you have to make eye contact, but a really interesting rule is that you cant greet someone through a doorway. You have to invite the person in before you make a greeting cuz it’s seen as bad luck. I learned this from my family, anytime I tried to hug someone or greet someone through the door, they would be like ‘No you have to bring them in and welcome them’”

Context: The informant is an 18-year-old first year at USC. He is from Chapel Hill, North Carolina, but his family is from Russia. He learned this Russian greeting custom from his close and extended Russian family and still practices it today. He is a male, so he has participated in the man-man and man-woman greetings. It is a way that he can “relate” to his Russian family and show his love for his heritage, and of course not bring bad luck upon his family.

Analysis: In Russian culture it is bad luck to shake hands through a doorway, and people will refuse to shake your hand if you attempt it, just as the informant described. Perhaps this has to do with the fact that the in-between space of the doorway, outside, and inside is a liminal space. A greeting cannot be properly given in a liminal space because of the magical bad luck that exists because of it. Shaking someone’s hand inside the home is a physical manifestation of the greeting due to the location of the handshake. Russian culture is patriarchal, therefore it makes sense that men would shake hands in a display of power versus kiss because shaking hands is not associated with sexuality or expressions of love. They also shake hands with women gently versus firmly because they are more fragile/dainty. Women kiss each other on the cheek, mirroring the emphasis on love and sexuality that permeates women’s lives as opposed to men. 

Arab Three Kiss Greeting

Nationality: Lebanese
Age: 18
Occupation: Student
Residence: Los Angeles
Performance Date: 2/14/2023
Primary Language: English
Language: Arabic

My informant (18), from Lebanon, describes a greeting: “So a standard Arab greeting, is, typically in the Middle-East, you have to do three kisses on the cheek. It must be on the cheeks. It’s not allowed to be an air kiss. It can be a cheek to cheek thing.”

The informant went on to explain further implications of the gesture, saying that if not done properly, “it’s gonna be a sign of disrespect. It’s typically used as a formality. So if you do any less than 3 it’s seen as informal. It’s like you didn’t complete the transaction of greetings which is very important in Arab culture. How to greet people, how to welcome them into your home. If you are welcoming an individual into your home and they don’t give you three kisses, […] then it’s seen as they don’t respect you, they don’t hold you to a high authority, they are uncomfortable in your home. And usually this is seen throughout most Arab culture. It’s not seen as a first formal greeting, it’s mostly done between family members. But it can also be seen as a casual greeting between family members. […] Like ‘you’re welcoming me into your home, you’re feeding me, you’re entertaining me, you’re bringing a smile to my face’. And everyone must do it and even kids are taught it from a young age. It’s mostly family, but, family and close friends. The main symbol is deep loyalty to one another.”

Because the greeting is both a gesture of respect and also mostly used for family members, we might expect that family is very important in this culture, especially respect between members of the same family. It is important to maintain a level of respect within tight social circles, and to communicate this respect and appreciation of hospitality.