Author Archives: Chloe Lee

Christmas Songs

Age: 19
Occupation: Student

Context: “I grew up in a big Christmas family. We went to church, decorated every part of the house, and sang every Christmas song there was. Singing wasn’t just for caroling; it happened throughout the season. Every year, the same songs, the same excitement. My parents were especially big on the ‘magic’ of it. They were really believed in ‘the magic of Christmas’ and really believed that it brought everyone closer together. I personally don’t know about that but I think it’s nice that even just for a little bit or just one day, everyone gets even closer for the holidays. There’s one song specifically called Must Be Santa, and it was so annoying, but we used to sing it at church every year.”

Analysis: Singing Christmas songs is a ritual that blends both religious and secular traditions. In families like Anne’s, it reinforces seasonal joy, community belonging, and shared memory. A song like Must Be Santa, though often seen as lighthearted or even annoying, takes on symbolic importance through repetition; especially in a church setting where it bridges sacred and playful elements. The act of singing together, becomes an expression of belief, nostalgia, and identity. It binds participants to cultural rhythms and holiday expectations. Even “annoying” songs serve as touchstones of collective memory, especially when tied to family or religious routines.

Protect My Grandchildren Ritual

Age: 20

Text: This practice comes from the person’s grandmother’s side of the family. The ritual blends cultural traditions with personal spirituality and takes a modern tweak of a ritual that was rooted from an official Baha’i ritual.

Context: “Ever since I was a child, whenever we visited my grandmother, she would burn incense. It wasn’t for any special celebration or event; she just did it whenever we came over. She’s Persian and has practiced the Baha’i faith most of her life, but this incense thing wasn’t strictly Baha’i. I see it more of a cultural and familial tradition. She always said it was to protect us from demons, especially the kids. When I first saw this happen, I just never really understood this practice; mostly because when I was a kid, it was just literally smoke. But after growing up, I really started to appreciate the gesture and protection of my grandmother.”

Interpretation: Burning incense as a protective act is a tradition present in many other cultures. In Persian households, this practice often blends Zoroastrian or folk beliefs with newer religions like the Baha’i faith. In this case, it functions as a quiet, domestic ritual of care, centered on shielding children from unseen harms. Though not explicitly religious, it holds a strong spiritual meaning and demonstrates how rituals can coexist alongside formal religion as intergenerational protection.

Korean 100-Day Celebration

Age: 22

Text: Baek-il (백일) or “100 Days” is a traditional celebration in South Korea. It marks the 100th day after a baby’s birth, traditionally celebrated to honor the child’s survival through a once-vulnerable time. Once celebrating a day of survival, it’s slowly transitioned into a day that is more jolly and focuses on a child’s future.

Context: “In Korean culture, there’s a special celebration when a baby turns 100 days old. My cousin had a party for her baby’s baek-il and I actually got to experience one that wasn’t mine. There was a big spread of food, rice cakes, and the close family wore traditional hanbok. It was partly a family celebration, but also had this deep respect for the baby surviving the most fragile part of infancy, so many close friends were invited to come. During this ceremony, another mini-event is held called Doljaebi where a number (usually 6-8) of career symbolic items are placed in front of the baby (i.e. gavel for judge, stethoscope for doctor, money for a rich life) and the baby is encouraged by the crowd to choose an object for their future career.

Analysis: Baek-il is a significant Korean ritual marking a child’s 100th day of life, historically rooted in a time when infant mortality was high. Reaching this milestone was cause for gratitude and hope. The ritual blends celebration with protection, often involving food offerings and prayers. Even in modern times, it represents continuity with tradition, anchoring new life within family and cultural heritage. It has now transitioned to more of a ritual that celebrates what a child will become in the future now that they are “full of new life” through the doljaebi. It’s tone has moved from a more tense one to a more joyous and public ritual.

Chinese Acupuncture

Age: 21

Text: Acupuncture is part of Traditional Chinese Medicine involves inserting fine needles into specific points on the body to balance qi (energy flow). It’s often paired with moxibustion, the burning of herbal heat sources near the skin.

Context: “My uncle had chronic back pain, and instead of going to a Western doctor, he went to a traditional Chinese acupuncturist. They placed needles all down his spine and in his legs. After a few sessions, he swore he felt better. My family really believes in acupuncture. They think it works with your energy, not just the muscles or nerves. When I still did sports during high school, I regularly went to a clinic for acupuncture because my mom really pushed and swore that it would make me feel better. I went regularly and I won’t lie, I think I only really felt the effects when my pain was really bad or just really exhausted. Either way, it did help in the long run in my opinion. ”

Analysis: Acupuncture is one of the most widely practiced elements of Traditional Chinese Medicine and is based on the belief that health comes from balanced energy (qi) flowing through pathways called meridians. The placement of needles stimulates these points to restore balance, reduce pain, or treat illness. While now recognized globally, acupuncture is still practiced in many Chinese communities as both a clinical treatment and a cultural ritual. It reflects a worldview that links the body, nature, and energy systems and offers an alternative to Western biomedicine that prioritizes harmony over symptom suppression. From what I’ve seen, it’s slowly (even though it’s been around for a very long time) entering people’s awareness because chiropractic is becoming more popular and I’ve seen people get confused between the two. More and more people have been using acupuncture as it is an easy way to soothe aches.

Bloody Mary, Bloody Mary, Bloody Mary

Age: 22

Text/Story: “In middle school, we all dared each other to say ‘Bloody Mary’ three times in the mirror. We were too scared to try it alone, so we did it at sleepovers. We thought we’d summon a ghost or maybe just freak each other out. Even though it was a joke, we kind of believed it and it was a huge bonding thing between us.”

Analysis: The Bloody Mary ritual is an urban legend with folkloric roots, typically performed by children or teens. Originally, it was a divination ritual that dared young women to walk a flight of stairs backwards with only a candle and hand mirror in a darkened house. If you saw a figure other than yourself, it was a sign you’d die before getting married (a popular fear at that time). Despite being largely theatrical, it’s a popular choice for social rite of passage: a test of bravery and conformity. In modern times and in modern media, it’s seen as an initiation into friend groups or a scare tactic for bullies. It’s seen as a strong example of how fear and imagination can impact group dynamics and echoes how older superstitions around reflections and spirits have been passed down for generation. It’s not tied to religion but shows how rituals convey deeper psychological and cultural meaning.