Category Archives: Customs

Customs, conventions, and traditions of a group

African American Oral Traditions

Nationality: American
Residence: Los Angeles, California
Primary Language: English

African American Oral Traditions:

In African-American culture, oral tradition has been passed down in the form of stories and songs. The negro spirituals would not only be songs of prayer and deliverance from sin, but also contained double meanings which other slaves would understand as prayers for literal freedoms from the bondages and miseries of slavery. When slave populations were converted to Christianity, many blacks heavily identified with the Moses and the story of Exodus, believing that they too would eventually be emancipated from servitude by the power of God. Many of these songs are still sung today, one in particular, Wade in the Water is my paternal grandmother’s favorite. According to my father, she would sing it when she bathed me as a baby. My favorite has to be one that most Americans are familiar with: When the Saints Go Marching In. E’ah explained to me how it spoke of Christ’s Second Coming. The “saints marching in” were those Christians who were to be taken up with Jesus as he brought them into heaven. “Lord, how I want to be in that number” was the singer’s expression of hope that they would be among the saints to attain eternal life. I would always be puzzled by a certain verse she would sing: “Oh when the moon shines red with blood”. Later I would come to find out that this refers to the eclipses St. John writes about in the Book of Revelations. I have fond memories of mother and maternal grandmother (Nana) singing hymns such as Leaning on the Everlasting Arm and The Lord is Blessing Me. I like to think foundation of my deep Christian faith is built in part on the words that my grandmother used to sing with such joy: “He woke me us this morning, and started me on my way. The Lord is blessing me right now. Oh! Right now!”

 

J.S. recalls the various oral traditions he is familiar with, with regards to African American culture, as well as his Christian beliefs. He mentions the songs that have a close connection in the hearts of his family members, and himself. I believe that it is a very normal phenomenon to reconcile one’s cultural beliefs with one’s spiritual beliefs, and there are few better ways to accomplish that than with songs.

The Mappillai Thozhn

Nationality: American
Age: 19
Occupation: Student
Residence: Indianapolis
Performance Date: 4/30
Primary Language: English
  1. Main Piece: Sri Lankan Wedding Ritual: The Mappillai Thozhn
  2. Informant Background:
    1. What is it: Younger male relative of the bride is a “second groom.” He dresses up in the same outfit as the groom, walks in with the groom, sits with the married couple, and is just as important as the groom.
    2. Where did you learn it: One day my grandma and cousins were joking. I have two older cousins that are females, and they joked that I would be the Mappillai Thozhn at their wedding, and after they explained to me what it was, I noticed at the next wedding I went to, that there was a young boy sitting alongside the groom wherever he went.
    3. Why is is practiced? I don’t know the exact meaning, but the way I interpret it, it’s sort of a giving away meaning. Rather than the father giving the daughter away, it is sort of like the brother giving his sister away.
    4. What does it mean to you: I think it’s kind of cute, but I also think it’s a symbol how oddly anti feminist an Indian society can be – a symbol of one man giving away a woman to another man.
  3. Context of Performance: Wedding
  4. My Thoughts: While Arjuna mentioned Indian society as antifeminist, it can be seen, through several of the other Sri Lankan Wedding Folklore that have been collected, that there is also a strong value and respect given to women and the sacrifice they are expected to make. This is an interesting practice though, I have never heard of such a practice – usually the groom is the most important man of the night, however here the brides brother is being seen given equal importance. Much like Arjuna said, it is symbolic that she is transferring from the protection of one man to another. In Indian culture, even the younger brother is expected to protect his sister. I’m sure this is also an empowering moment for the young boy as well – his older sister who has been taking care of him as well is leaving, and he is to step up and give her away.

Brides Outfit (Sri Lankan Weddings)

Nationality: American
Age: 19
Occupation: Student
Residence: Indianapolis, Indiana
Performance Date: 4/29/15
Primary Language: English
  1. Main Piece: After the ceremony starts, a lot of women from the grooms side walk in, holding a brand new sari. The bride takes the sari, leaves, and comes back dressed in the new sari.
  2. Informant Background:
    1. What does it mean: The bride being welcomed into the groom’s family with this garment of clothing they give to her. She is now part of a new family. She’s a new woman.
    2. Where did you learn it: I learned at a wedding that I went to in Canada about a year ago.
    3. What does it mean to you: It does not mean much to me, it seems to be a tradition that would be more heavily valued amongst the women of both sides of the family.
  3. Context of Performance: Wedding
  4. My Thoughts: It was mentioned by Arjuna in response to a previous wedding custom that the Indian society is so anti-feminist. However, I think that while the society can be identified as Patriarchal, customs such as these show that women are still very heavily valued and respected. A large group of the welcoming family coming with a brand new outfit to welcome their addition to their family is representative of the amount of love she will be given from the family and from the family members. All the women coming with the Sari also shows how many lives her entrance into the family is impacting and how many people are looking to welcome her.

Dining Etiquette

Nationality: Taiwanese
Age: 21
Occupation: Student
Residence: Los Angeles, California
Performance Date: 4/1/15
Primary Language: English

Context:

The informant, who is Buddhist, gave a presentation at a recent retreat on spirituality that I had gone on. I asked to meet with him to talk about other Buddhist principles and lore that he had not gone over at the retreat.

Interview Transcript:

Informant: So, again, I was raised Buddhist. So my parents are Taiwanese Buddhist, which is a very specific like type of Buddhism. It’s a kind of pure land Buddhism, where it’s like, borderline spiritual, like religious Buddhism. Like a savior type of Buddhism, as opposed to, like the origin of Buddhism in India, which was more about self cultivation. One of the things that they espouse, or like, one way of practicing that Buddhist practice, is not eating meat. Because, you know, obviously if you eat meat, you are then thereby, you know, perpetuating the suffering of animals, or other living beings. So that makes sense. So there’s no beef, no chicken, no pork, no fish, no eggs… Actually they do eat eggs. Um, but then they go a step further, actually, and there’s a rule where you don’t eat garlic. Or you don’t eat anything that would like, smell bad. Which is so interesting. And like, my dad would always like, “Oh, make it vegetarian, but no onions.” And I was like, “What? Onions aren’t meat.” And he would be like, “But it’s the Buddhist thing to do.” And I’ve heard various, like, folklore as to why that is. Um, one of it is, like, so silly, like “Oh, you know. You don’t want to offend someone with the smell, so you don’t do it.” Because other people would be offended by the smell of onions, apparently. That’s one story. And then I recently heard, recently being like a year ago, where I heard a whole different story that was fascinating to me. Which, now, reflecting on it it doesn’t make any sense. But, the whole premise is, like, those types of foods tend to be like roots, so you would need to, like, harm the Earth by physically digging at it, like opening up the Earth, to get these, like, vegetables. Or like these very pungent, um, foods. So that’s like, ginger, garlic, onions. But then I’m thinking like, doesn’t that include like, carrots?

Me: And potatoes?

Informant: And potatoes! [Laughter] So, um, but that was something somebody told me. And again, it comes from the place of like, mitigating suffering and not causing harm, even to the Earth. And like, I can see how someone would espouse that folklore, and just be like, “Yeah, makes total legitimate sense.” But, for me I was a practicing vegetarian, but I didn’t buy the whole onion thing ’cause I didn’t get it.

Analysis:

This dining custom embodies the Buddhist principle of not causing others unneeded suffering, similar to the practice of vegetarianism. The extra explanation about preventing harm to the Earth also espouses this principle, though the informant pointed out a flaw in that explanation. The informant did not subscribe to this practice himself, though he learned it from his family.

The Toilet Fountain at UCLA

Nationality: American
Age: 19
Occupation: Student
Residence: Los Angeles, CA
Performance Date: 4/10/2015
Primary Language: English
Language: Mandarin Chinese

“I just think that there aren’t a lot of customs at UCLA. Let me think. Okay, got one, So apparently there’s this fountain called the toilet fountain. It’s like…halfway between north and south campus…Wait…you don’t know where that is. It’s called the toilet fountain because it looks like a toilet being flushed. Okay but like as a freshman, you have to touch the water in the fountain once before you start classes as a freshman. Then you have to touch it after you graduate. If you touch it anytime in between, supposedly you won’t graduate. I honestly don’t believe in that. I’ve touched it more than once.”

Context/Analysis: The informant first heard of this ritual when she entered her freshman year of college. During orientation a tour guide, who was a senior at UCLA, told them about the ritual. Then they allowed whoever wanted to, to participate in the ritual. Most did. It is probably the most well-known ritual at the UCLA campus. The informant also informed of some people who touched the fountain before their graduation and actually didn’t graduate. Because of this, she whole-heartedly believes the folk belief and refuses to touch the fountain until she graduates. This ritual is an example of a liminal, in which once you engage in the ritual, you are truly a “bruin” and have agreed to the 4-year college journey.