Category Archives: Customs

Customs, conventions, and traditions of a group

Folk Remedy

Nationality: Canadian
Age: 20
Occupation: Student
Residence: Tustin, CA
Performance Date: April 28, 2008
Primary Language: English
Language: Spanish

“White wine takes out red wine stains.”

Angie told me that she learned this while at a dinner party with family friends.  Her parents’ friend mentioned that white wine would take out red wine stains, to an extent however.  At first, she did not think it would work, but her friends reassured her and claimed that it would.  Angie has not tried it yet, but she says she believes now that it may be true.  When I heard about this remedy, I thought it was pretty interesting.  Up until that point, I had thought that once you spill red wine, there is no way to get the stain out.  But when I heard that white wine would actually help, I was amused, especially since you are basically fighting wine with wine.

I could not find anywhere where it is published that white wine can take out red wine stains.  To me, this seems like a recent finding.  I remember when people would say that nothing can get out red wine stains.  But after doing some research on the Internet, people have all sorts of tricks to get stains out, such as white wine and even cold water with salt.

I feel that this falls into folklore.  It is not folk medicine, but it could fall into a category of “folk remedy.”  Everything is passed on verbally between groups of people with a common interest, or problem, being stains from red wine spills.  I have not heard of this solution before so I would guess that it is fairly new.  Angie told me she heard it about three or four months ago.  However, I believe that this solution will gain popularity and become well known.

Festival – Mexico

Nationality: Mexican
Age: 24
Occupation: Events Coordinator
Residence: Huntington Park, CA
Performance Date: April 30, 2008
Primary Language: English
Language: Spanish

“The Day of the Dead is the Mexican version of Halloween. It is more like a party, or a celebration of a person’s life.”

Is there anything unique about this day? “Some people go to the extent of having picnics over the graves of their loved ones who have deceased.”

Are there any special foods you eat on this day? “I’m not too sure about that, but have you ever been to Olvera street downtown? There are always these decorations and paper mache skulls down there that are common for this celebration.”

Guillermo told me that he and his immediate family do not usually celebrate this holiday every year, which falls on the 1st of November. However, he said that he knows of it from older members of his family who would celebrate it more frequently. He said that this celebration is held to remember those who have passed away and to honor what they did during their life. He explained that a family remembers their relatives who have passed away and brings pictures of them to the celebration or picnic. He told me about the use of skull symbolism in the decorations for this day and how those images represent how the dead are incorporated and involved in this celebration.

He explained to me how this celebration is significant for the family members who are still living as a way to accept the loss of their loved ones. This day allows family members to have a party in their honor so to enjoy and remember all the happy memories they had with that person. It sheds a more positive light on death, expressing it as a natural occurrence. It is not usually a sad or mournful celebration, but one that helps the family come to terms with their loss. He said that this celebration is significant in shaping the way in which the natural process of life and death are understood.

The iconographic importance of the skull during this celebration has a significant meaning. According to Stanley Brandes, he there are several different kinds of treats eaten on this celebration which are made in the shape of skulls or skeletons. There are candy skulls made of white sugar with colorful decorative sugar frosting on it, which are given as treats to children. There are chocolate caskets with these sugar skeletons inside, viewed through an opening or window, with a string attached that when pulled moves the skeleton as if resurrected. These treats and images are tied to humor and lightheartedness, linked with children and jokes. Brandes explains that this expression of art and philosophy on death has not been thwarted by the oppression Mexico has endured in its history. (“Iconography in Mexico’s…”).

This cultural celebration of death also seems as a way for the living community to help the deceased transition into the afterlife. By having a celebration their honor, even having a picnic over their grave, it still allows the dead to participate in the living world even though they are not bodily present on earth. I agree with Guillermo that this celebration helps the living to cope with the loss of loved ones in coming to terms with the natural processes of life and death.

Annotation: Brandes, Stanley. “Iconography in Mexico’s Day of the Dead: Origins and Meaning.” Ethnohistory. 45.2 (1998): 181-218. 30 Apr. 2008. <http://www.jstor.org/pss/483058>.

Folk Ritual/Festival Celebration

Nationality: Vietnamese
Age: 44
Occupation: Store Manager/Licensed Manicurist
Residence: Irvine, CA
Performance Date: April 20, 2008
Primary Language: English

“On the last day of the Vietnamese lunar calendar year, around early February, we would get up early and help our parents clean up the house to prepare for T?t.  My sister and I would go to the market with my mom, and we would help with two or three big baskets with groceries to prepare for the feast and ceremony offerings to the ancestors to give thanks.  We’d get home in the afternoon and get together to clean the house very clean inside and out, and clean up the dust because the dirty house means the ancestors won’t come and visit.  We cleaned up ourselves while the parents prepared food and set up a big table like an altar, and set up food there like moon cake, rice cake, Vietnamese traditional New Year’s sweets and fruits, especially watermelon which is considered the traditional New Year’s fruit.  Around midnight, we would gather around and pray to the ancestors and give thanks for the year that’s gone by with all we’ve had, and pray for the coming year with luck.  When the clock strikes midnight, my dad brings out a lot of fireworks and we played with them to ring in the New Year.  Then, the adults mingle and talk about the New Year and congratulate each other while the kids go to sleep.  Most times the kids couldn’t sleep because they were too excited about the lì-xì they would get the next day.”

While living in Vietnam as a young boy, my father picked up on these traditional T?t, or Vietnamese New Year, rituals after witnessing them year after year.  Just as children in America gain understanding of rituals performed during holidays like Christmas or the Fourth of July, my father and his siblings realized the importance of celebrating Vietnamese New Year, the most important holiday in Vietnam, with family members.  Proving again Dundes’ idea that most other cultures besides America are past-oriented rather than future-oriented, these rituals reveal a deep sense of love and respect for ancestors of past generations.  However, this is not to say that thought for the future is disregarded; my father mentioned that prayer for a lucky new year was an essential part of the holiday ritual.

Like in other Asian cultures, the emphasis on family ties and togetherness in the Vietnamese culture is exemplified most during these celebrations for the New Year.  Even before the celebration started, my father and his siblings would work together with their parents to ensure a successful celebration.  Everyone had his or her own duties and contributions to make, whether it was cooking or cleaning.  Special foods—like the moon cake which represents the beginning of a new lunar calendar year—are even reserved for the occasion, and my father said that he and the other children would look forward most to those treats which they would only get to eat during this time of the year.  Also, unlike the American tradition of only celebrating the night before the first day of the new year, Vietnamese New Year rituals continue to take place on the days following the first day of the new year.  Lì-xì, or red envelopes filled with “lucky” money, were given to each child in the family the day after, similar to the American tradition of giving presents to family members on Christmas morning, perhaps after celebrations on Christmas Eve.  Also, these rituals performed during the Vietnamese New Year are basically identical to those of Chinese New Year, and both are celebrated on the same day.

My father says that now when he celebrates Vietnamese New Year in America with his family members, it gives him a sense of comfort and familiarity.  In continuing his family’s traditions and passing them down to my brother and me, he feels that he is instilling in us a lasting concept of heritage that we can eventually pass on to our own children.

Annotation: Welch, Patricia Bjaaland.  Chinese New Year. New York: Oxford University Press, 1997, pg. 37.  Parallel to those of Vietnamese New Year, the folk rituals of Chinese New Year include giving children “their first red packets of ‘lucky money’ at some point on New Year’s Eve, after New Year greetings have been given and dinner consumed.”

Superstion – Irvine, California

Nationality: Chinese
Age: 18
Occupation: Student
Residence: Irvine, CA
Performance Date: April 27, 2008
Primary Language: English

“During tennis matches, don’t drink red Gatorade.  Also, during breaks, only drink one sip of Gatorade and one sip of water each time, if at all.”

As a tennis player with two years of highly competitive Varsity high school tennis under her belt, Charlyne said that she developed these superstitions after personal experiences in a plethora of doubles matches.  She explains that early into her high school tennis career, she began to form these beliefs when she and her partner drank nothing but red Gatorade sports drinks during matches and consequently played horribly each time.  So horribly, in fact, that she even attributes what she considers the worst match of her entire life to the consuming of red Gatorade.  Charlyne even went on to say that red Gatorade was initially an aversion to her because of its bright color and prominence whenever it would accidentally spill onto the team’s light-colored uniforms.

In this way, Charlyne demonstrates several practical reasons for not drinking red Gatorade and for only drinking one sip each of water and Gatorade during matches.  She reasoned that the sip of water would wash down the Gatorade’s aftertaste and not leave her mouth sugarcoated and parched as she continued to play.  However, her belief that only one sip of each beverage should be allowed is unique to her, but again it derives from personal experience.  Charlyne relates that during one match, both she and her doubles partner drank two large gulps of the drinks during their break and afterward would consistently feel cramps and never play to the best of their abilities.

It is interesting that Charlyne’s personal superstitions are not simply superstitions passed down from family members or picked up from friends, but were formed of her own accord.  Personal experiences and bouts of bad luck led to her creation of these rules, proving that the formulation of superstitions and folk beliefs can be entirely dependent on the individual and his or her own identity, without the influence of society and already widely-held beliefs.

Punishment – South Korea

Nationality: Korean
Age: 22
Occupation: Student
Residence: Arcadia, CA
Performance Date: April 15, 2008
Primary Language: Korean
Language: English, French

Jae Ha Chang – Korean Punishment

Jae Ha has only lived in this country for the last eight years. Before that, he was a resident of South Korea, where childhood disobedience and mischievous play is a commonality. Similar to how it is in the United States. However, punishment is much more brutal for children. While spankings are not uncommon in American culture, children do not normally have to be beaten for the message to sink in that they did something wrong and should not do it again. Most of the time spankings are no big deal for American children and they continue to be mischievous.  In South Korea, this is not the case. South Korean parents beat their children more vigorously when their children misbehave. Some might say this method of severely beating their children is a more efficient way of punishing their children. Jae Ha certainly thought so.

Jae Ha has a few stories from his childhood that he will never forget about the punishments that he received from his parents. When he has twelve and still living in South Korea, he was beaten so bad by his father that he had to go to the hospital. One day, Jae and his family were watching television late at night. Everything was fine until Jae decided to be a smart aleck and say something rude and nasty to his mother. (He does not remember what he said, but he did say it was pretty crude and mean). His mother yelled at him, but did not take too much offense. However, his father was not so keen on letting him continue the night without punishment. He picked up a baseball bat, shoved his mother aside, and proceeded to take a full swing at Jae Ha’s side. Aside from the enormous bruise he received, Jae had to go to the hospital to get treatment for the wound. While this would seem unacceptable in American culture, Jae went back home the next day to normal family life. Jae and his father both acted like nothing happened because in South Korean culture. It’s not a big deal. To this day, Jae has never said anything that nasty to this mother again. The message must have stuck the punishment right on target.

Another story where Jae was beaten to learn a lesson was four years later when he was sixteen and living in America. Jae had just received his driver’s license a week before and he was driving home from school. He proceeded to get in a car accident that totaled his car. Take into mind this was only a week after he received his license. His mother came to the scene and made sure he was okay and took him to the hospital to make sure he was okay. After a week or so of rehabilitation, Jae’s mom asked him if he was feeling better. Jae’s responded with a yes, and then was beat by his mother. She took a plastic stick-like object and wacked him with it numerous times. She grounded him for four months and took away his driving privileges for six months on top of the beating. Once again, Jae was distraught by the punishment but never thought it out of the ordinary. It was completely normal to him and because of it, he was much more careful when driving.

Jae said that this type of punishment was common for most of the other Korean families he knew while living in South Korea. He also mentioned that even while living in America, these same beating punishments took place among other families. While it seems unethical and almost cruel to a person who grows up in American society, this act of beating your children as punishment is quite common among a vast number of South Korean families. Korean’s have a different sense of what is acceptable and what is unethical. Korean’s are raised from a culture that spent much of ancestry studying martial arts. From experience, martial arts teach self-defense and discipline. This discipline training makes a person stronger both physically and mentally. Because of this fact, I believe this is the reason why harsher punishments are considered tolerable in a culture where discipline is taken more seriously.