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“A ritual that brings bad luck that I learned of back when I was dating someone was tied to a birthday gift. I asked my mom for some advice and she said in relationships and Korean folk beliefs if you give them shoes you guys will break up, because it symbolizes running away. After my mom told me that, like, I’ve heard it in a lot of different settings, like even in TV shows, too.”
Context
“I don’t think it was something specific within our family. I think it’s been around for a long time because there’s connections to proverbs or idioms that I’ve heard of. There are a lot of those fortune-related superstitions in Korean culture. I think what makes these belief work are the symbolic objects such as shoes in this context. Since you choose to walk and run there’s a deeper meaning just beyond beyond the symbolism because these practices are a choice rather than simply a belief.”
Analysis:
The object of gifting shoes to a partner in this context carries symbolic importance in Korean folk belief due to its association with walking and running. This ties to the relationship superstititon that the partner will “run away” just as shoes are used for. This folkloric idea is a belief in homeopathic magic, where similar things will have similar results, because the actions performed with shoes mirror the action of the romantic partner. The speaker connects this folk belief to a broader audience beyond just his personal family relating it to idioms and proverbs. This shows that it is part of a larger cultural value than simply a personal belief held within his family. Many in Korea know of this superstition and ensure to steer away from it as to maintain a fortunate relationship. Still, the fact that he only knew of it because of the informal knowledge passed on from his mom, show how folklore is typically learned through conversation or observation rather than cultural education.
