Category Archives: Adulthood

Coming-of-age, courtship, marriage, weddings

Senior Pranks

Age: 21

TEXT:

Informant- “Senior year of high school at my school we always had to do, in the theater department, a senior prank on the lower classmen and the teachers and each year it would be different like VERY different and people would go all out. One year people brought sand giant, like inflatable pools and we had a beach day in the classroom and all the underclassmen had to watch us and we locked them out. One class had our school mascot like in the room filled with cups of water so no one could go get it. It was very odd and like, signs warning about “the tornado” cause that’s our mascot. I can’t remember any other ones but each year we would try to like up the other group do better, one up of them, and it really brought the senior class together!”

CONTEXT: The informant recounts the time in high school in Florida and the various senior pranks that happened during her time there.

ANALYSIS:

Pranks as a rite of passage are very important to many people, especially the transition from adolescence to adulthood and the limbo of being a teenager in high school. I think the added element of being in the theater department in high school and having that extra layer of folk and community adds to the competitiveness of the pranks to will not be each other and bond in a way through these pranks

Nigerian first paycheck

Age: 20s Location: Chicago, IL, Background: Nigerian-American

Context: Participants (initals DA) is from a Nigerian-American household. She grew up in Dubai and now lives in a Chicago suburb. She has many siblings and is very close to her family.

Text: DA states that in Nigerian culture, the first paycheck a teen/young adult makes must go back to their parents or an adult figure. She says it’s a way of “showing appreciation and gratitude to those who raised you”. Participant mentions that everyone in her family does this. However, for her personal first paycheck she went and spent it at McDonald’s. DA says that her mother especially was not happy about it.

Analysis:

Here, a teens first paycheck serves as an offering, marking perhaps a transition from the adolescence to adulthood. A first paycheck is a time where one steps into the world of independence and financial freedom from their parents. By surrendering this first check, it’s a symbolic gesture of gratitude and the sacrifices that the family has made to get the individual to this point in their life. When the participant breaks this tradition, she, without realizing the depth of meaning behind this gesture, breaks a social contract. This moment can be a “paying back” of the life-debt to the parents so that the child can begin their own life with a clean start. This is obvious in the participant’s mothers angry reaction, which likely wasn’t over the loss of a couple dollars, but of, in her eyes, her child’s failure to acknowledge the transition point.

First Communion

Age: 21

Text:
“For my First Communion, we had to wear these pretty white dresses, and I actually wore my mom’s from when she got her First Communion. At that point, it was over 30 years old. We all went to the church, and I was with all my friends from elementary school. I think we were in first grade at the time, and we received our 1st communion. I felt so cute. My mom let me pick out my headband from a really cute First Communion store. And then we went to dinner and we saw Lady Gaga, and it was the best day ever.”

Context:
A catholic girl from NYC who had her First Communion, a coming of age ritual in Catholicism, in the first grade.

Analysis:
Her description of her First Communion demonstrates passing of tradition, the foundation of folklore. This coming of age event that she was excited to experience because it represented a huge milestone in her life. By wearing the same dress her mother did during her First Communion, she was able to connect with her and the celebration even deeper.

Bat Mitzvah

Age: 21

Text: “In the Jewish religion, the really religious people, Orthodox, celebrate it differently. In those cases, the girls don’t actually have Bat Mitzvahs because they’re technically not supposed to read the Torah. But I did because my family’s more reformed. So I obviously had a Bat Mitzvah, and I thought it was the biggest deal ever at the time. It obviously still is, but I thought it was the biggest deal. There was a lot of preparation before because I had to learn like five passages from the Torah and actually learn how to read it. In the Torah it’s hard to read because there’s no accents or anything so you kind of have to know what you’re saying to be able to read it. But it was really, really fun. And then after my service, I had a party, and it was really fun.”

Context: A Jewish girl from Miami. She had her Bat Mitzvah when she was 12, which is a coming of age ritual in Judaism. The Bat Mitzvah is a celebration and transition of girlhood into adulthood. The boy equivalent is a Bar Mitzvah.

Analysis: It was interesting to hear the difference between her Bat Mitzvah and an Orthodox Bar Mitzvahs, especially that Bat Mitzvahs actually don’t exist for Orthodox Jews due to their beliefs. Her Bat Mitzvah is remembered as a very big deal, which is representative of the importance of this ritual. She was excited for this coming-of-age ritual, studied and practiced for it, and completed it with a celebration. She will pass down this religious tradition to her children, as her parents did to her.

First Communion

Age: 22

Text:
“At my First Communion, they took us up to the practice ceremony with all of our parents upstairs in the church. We had to practice eating the communion, representing the body of christ, and drinking the wine, representing the blood of christ, and we drank the wine. I remember saying, this is so gross really loudly, and my parents got so mad at me. The actual day was really fun. We got to wear our dresses and take pictures outside the church. It meant that I was growing up, and it was a really important milestone for my religion.

Context:
A Catholic girl from Phoenix discussing her First Communion, a coming of age ritual in Catholicism, and what it meant to her.

Analysis:
Her First Communion Served as a signifying moment in her religion, marking the moment that she’s growing up. It took preparation and practice because of how significant it is. She remembers the act vividly, specifically noting that wearing a pretty dress was an exciting part of the event. It’s also interesting how children remember moments of stress, even over moments of pure excitement.