Category Archives: Life cycle

Mount Holyoke Laurel Parade

Age: 22

Text: My sister told me about a graduation tradition at her school Mount Holyoke called the Laurel Parade. She said it “symbolizes when a student moves into an alum. Participants wear white in solidarity with the suffragists and seniors parade with a laurel chain and drape it on the iron fence around the grave while we sing ‘bread and roses’ (poem turned song) about protests on equal pay at a textile mill in Massachusetts.” 

Context: She is heavily looking forward to the Laurel Parade because it is a momentous occasion and she’s looking forward to the singing part. When my sister said she’s excited for it, my mom mentioned that everyone in the parent groups say it is the highlight of graduation. My sister says it’s very cult-like but also very cute. She’s been very bittersweet about graduating and can’t wait to sing songs and be in a cult.

Analysis: This is an important ritual for Mount Holyoke grads, and helps to foster a collective identity among members. The wearing of white is a long standing connection to suffragists and ties the graduation to a greater meaning, as these new women graduate from college and go off to the real world. These traditions are important as they mark a rite of passage and this one creates a sense of closure as they all work together to create the atmosphere through singing and outfits. It is a milestone that helps process the “bittersweet” feelings of leaving an institution you’ve been with for four years.

60th Birthday Celebration

Age: 25

Text: D. told me about how there are 12 zodiac signs in East Asia that apply to all 12 months, but years as well. 60 years is considered a whole cycle since there are 5 types of zodiacs (blue dragon, black dragon, 3 more). He said when someone turns 60 years old it is a big celebration because they lived through all the zodiac signs. He said they rent a venue and do a crazy fancy celebration.

Context: He said he’s always known the 60th birthday to be a milestone. He says that it is fading with the younger generations because it used to be a big accomplishment to live until 60, but nowadays it is way more common. He said that he went to his grandparent’s 60th where they had a lot of food in a big buffet and traditional Korean clothes. 

Analysis: This ritual is a good example of cyclical time and rites of passage. It’s more than just a party, it reflects ideas of symbolic rebirth. Passing through all the zodiac signs is a rebirth and cause for a celebration. It also shows how we celebrate major milestones and transformations. It’s a right of passage into elderhood. Additionally, it exemplifies how tradition shifts over time.The fact that D. mentioned it’s less popular in younger generations shows how traditions that once carried a lot of weight adapt to new contexts. Things like traditional clothing, however, help preserve cultural identity in a modern context.

Birthday Pushups

Nationality: American
Age: 21
Occupation: Student
Language: English

“In ROTC or Naval Junior Reserve Officer Training Corps, we had a tradition to, or I guess it’s kind of ritualistic. Um when it was someone’s birthday, we would in class, we would have to do our birthday pushups. So, we would have to, ou know, get down in push up position and then the leader in at the time would command us to basically begin push ups. And as you do the push ups they sing happy birthday. But they sing it really slow. And so even if you finish your push ups you have to stay in a plank position until they’re done singing it. And then you have to wait for the leader to let you come back up.”

Context: High school Naval Junior Reserve Officer Training Corps, on someone’s birthday.

Analysis: This tradition, as one of many life cycle traditions surrounding birthdays, plays on the idea of shared pain, similar to birthday spanks. The subject has to complete push ups and go through the ritual to prove themselves and be celebrated by the group as a whole. In this ROTC tradition, the object is not just pain but achievement. By completing the birthday pushups, the individual can show their increased athleticism and reassert their place in the group identity based on strength and discipline. By knowing everyone has to do the same when it is their birthday, the individual is more willing to complete their turn in good humor and recognize it not as a punishment, but as a way to bond with their peers and recognize the achievement of another year. 

Christmas present fakeout

Nationality: American
Age: 60
Occupation: Computer Security
Language: English

“The tradition was, we would have to go to the store to get batteries or milk or something and we were anticipating Santa coming. And we were like “oh no, we don’t want to miss Santa” because Santa gave presents the day before, on the 24th because we celebrated at home. And then Christmas day, we’d go to my dad’s parent’s house. Well, when we lived out that way. Or I guess now the way we do it is [informant’s family side] 24th and [informant’s spouse’s side] on the 25th. So we’re waiting for Santa Claus and then my mother would say “hey, we need batteries/milk/something”” so we’d all go out and when we came back Santa had visited and the tree was lit and presents were under the tree. As I grew up, it was me taking my siblings to the store. And so the story repeats.  

Context: “When I was little, for Christmas. At least since I was maybe four, until my siblings were in their teens.”

Informant does not tie this to national identity and wondered how their parents did it because informant didn’t believe in Santa.

“I don’t know if we did that with the relatives up north, I think it was just my family doing that. And I don’t remember my parents talking about doing it. I think we did it with the boys but I don’t know. And I don’t know if we’ll do it with the great granddaughter, once she’s cognizant. “

Analysis: This tradition acts as a way to prepare for a larger tradition, that of Santa bringing presents at Christmas. This variation places the gift giving earlier in the evening, not at midnight as some versions have or in the early morning, as it is imperative for a store to still be open. In order to preserve the magic of the gift giving, the magic of the evening is falsely broken. The parent says that they need to go to the store for something right away, leading the children to assume they have to stop the Christmas celebrations and will miss Santa. Of course, this serves as a decoy so that they can return to a magical Christmas-filled house and partake more fully in the festivities then. The idea of this ‘false exit’ is effective, and also allows the older children to keep participating past the age of their belief. They are able to become the one taking younger siblings to the store and therefore become a weaver of the magic themselves, taking a more active role and shifting their satisfaction towards continuing the tradition for younger children. This tradition can span several generations, as the informant mentions, and continuously invites improvisation and variation so that the children can be surprised and delighted by Santa’s visit. 

Ritual – Secret Santa + Gingerbread cookie making

Nationality: American
Occupation: USC Student
Residence: Los Angeles, CA
Language: English

On Christmas Eve my informant and their family bake gingerbread cookies and doing Secret Santa

“Every every my family does Secret Santa on Christmas Eve. The youngest in the family says who they have first and then that person opens their gift and so on. While this is happening we eat the gingerbread cookies we made in the morning together. We use cookie cutters to make them into different shapes and decorate them however we want and each person gets to eat their own creations.”

This Christmas Eve tradition combines a ritual gift exchange with communal food preparation, both serving to reinforce family bonds, creativity, and shared identity. Secret Santa is a gift exchange that functions as a structured, participatory ritual that relies on the act of giving, surprise, and anonymity. In folklore studies gift-giving can be seen as a form of symbolic communication conveying affection, reinforcing social ties, and social obligation. The youngest in the family starting the gift-giving off adds an age-based hierarchy to the ritual, highlighting the importance of youth and continuity in my informant’s family. This ordered giving also introduces a ritual sequence that keeps everything organized and emotionally engaging. The shared activity of baking gingerbread cookies reflects a domestic ritual centered around a traditional way of preparing the food. The personalized decoration and use of cookie cutters makes the baking both creative and communal, promoting self-expression within the structured family framework. Eating the cookies during the gift exchange linked the two rituals together, adding multiple forms of participation to the cohesive festive tradition. The structure, baking in the morning then decorating then eating during Secret Santa, gives Christmas Eve a rhythm that separates this ritual from the everyday. Overall, this ritual tradition is a great example of how folklore functions in the modern family blending ritual and repetition with creativity to create a sense of shared identity and celebration. It’s a lived tradition that focuses on values like connection, generosity, and joy through shared acts.