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Stupid Games

Age: 19
Occupation: Student
Residence: Los Angeles, California
Language: English

Text: You Played Stupid Games, You Win Stupid Prizes.

Context: Informant details that this proverb was first heard in a Taylor Swift song. Informant commonly uses this proverb when discussing the decisions of others, especially when addressing relationship decisions. Informant describes themselves as being an advisor to many friends when it comes to relationships. When they bring up issues that are centered around making bad decisions, especially choosing romantic partners, the informant relays this proverb. Informant acknowledges that it can sometimes come off as harsh, but understands the necessity of tough truths, especially with people they care for. Informant wants their friends to understand that, sometimes, the best way to avoid troublesome issues is to be more precautious in decision making.

Analysis: I believe this proverb is very fundamental to how the American people view hardships. A lot of people separate themselves from the event, and treat the situation as something that has been, “done to them,” rather than, “done to self.” This is rooted in the tendency of people to not take responsibility for their actions. This proverb provides the wisdom that negative outcomes are likely to come from non thoughtful decisions. This can, and should be, applied to decision making on all scales. The American decision making culture has long been rooted in a “now is better than later” mindset. This means that the quicker decision is the better one, as it allows for action to be taken at a rapid rate. This, however, leads to many unforeseen issues that would have likely been thought of if the decision was made more carefully. This proverb’s importance then becomes as a reminder that the best choice is the thoughtful one.

The girl and her games. 

Nationality: African American

Primary Language: English

Other language(s): French

Age: 49

Occupation: Digital Marketing Consultant

Residence: Upstate, NY

Performance Date: 4/18/2025

Context: 

My informant, YD, is a family member of mine who lives in the Hudson Valley area of New York. YD has always been into music, YD’s was a fantastic singer, and music was their whole thing. Though I’d never really asked about their earliest exposure to music, not like on the radio, but more like a tall tale, something that had to be passed over, like musical performances by the campfire on a lonely night with a couple of friends. So, they told me this:

Text: 

“The earliest musical experience or song attached to a personal history are the various patty cake games I played as child on the playground, after school and during the summer with a group of adolescent girls. These are songs sung between two people while hand-clapping and hand-slapping in unison, and with rhythm. These were songs like ‘Miss Mary Mack,’ or ‘Down Down Baby.’ I learned them from other girls on the playground and females in my family. They were passed down through generations with slight lyrical and rhythmic variations. I know my mother and my grandmother had their own variations. 

Why this stands out and is important to me is because of the history and impact of generations of young girls being taught my mommies, aunties and sisters; these whimsical yet deep songs are fun and have little meaning as a child, but deeper meaning as you get older and realize the things you were sing about. The socialization of kids, the fantasy and awareness of hardship and evil intent. We were so carefree and blissful, yet the world around us was dangerous, sad and we were so vulnerable. 

Here’s one those song I remember:

‘…Down down baby, down by the roller coaster

Sweet sweet baby, I’ll never let you go

Shimmy shimmy cocoa pop, shimmy shimmy pow

Shimmy shimmy cocoa pop, shimmy shimmy pow

My momma said to pick the very best one….’”

Analysis: 

Yes, this entry is a great example of children’s folklore, particularly in the form of hand-clapping games, which are rich sites of cultural transmission, memory, and performance. And so, I assume I don’t have to explain much about songs like the ‘patty cake’ one, but, in my research, the songs like “Miss Mary Mack” and “Down Down Baby” have circulated across generations, especially among young girls, often passed down orally with slight lyrical and rhythmic changes depending on region, family, or even the moment. These rhymes, on the surface, seem playful and nonsensical, but as YD notes, they often contain deeper themes that only become clear with age, even something I grew up realizing from my personal experiences as well. I love the way YD reflects on these songs too, it’s exactly what makes these pieces of folklore so powerful. They function as socializing tools, helping children build rhythm, coordination, and friendships, while also encoding cultural knowledge in a form that’s accessible and repeatable. What hits hardest for me is the idea of inter-generational bonding, something the history behind these childhood games supports heavily. This makes YD’s personal memory not just nostalgic, but part of a larger cultural practice that links them to their ancestry and community. And I think that duality, innocence on the surface, depth underneath, is what makes playground folklore so endlessly fascinating.

Don’t B Sharp, Don’t B Flat, It’s Better to B Natural. (Gloss)

The phrase is a pun based on musical terminology:

“Don’t B sharp, don’t B flat, it’s better to B natural.”

This plays on the names of musical notes:

  • “B sharp” and “B flat” refer to accidentals in music.
  • “B natural” is both a musical note and a play on words encouraging someone to “be natural” in life.
  • The phrase suggests a balance—not being too extreme (sharp or flat), but being oneself (natural).

I first heard this phrase from M, the music director at my church. He used it in a lighthearted way while talking to the choir and musicians, emphasizing the importance of staying attentive in rehearsal with a positive attitude. He mentioned that he had heard variations of this pun before and liked using it as a joke to keep rehearsals engaging but also as a way to get members to self-check their presence in the rehearsal. Beyond the musical meaning, M explained it to me as a life lesson—encouraging people to avoid falling in uncontrolled extremes and instead be genuine and balanced. He uses this phrase both as humor and as a small piece of wisdom for his students and fellow musicians.

This phrase is a musical pun that also carries philosophical meaning. On the surface, it is a clever joke about musical notes, playing with the homophonic nature of “B” and “be” to create wordplay. However, beneath the humor, it conveys a message of authenticity and moderation.

Musically, being “sharp” or “flat” means being slightly out of tune—too high or too low in pitch. In a broader sense, these terms can symbolize extremes in behavior or emotions—being overly aggressive (sharp) or too passive (flat). By saying it’s better to “B natural”, the phrase suggests that the best approach in both music and life is to remain balanced, authentic, and in tune with oneself. As a musician who studies jazz at USC, this kind of wordplay is common in musician communities, where humor often arises from shared knowledge of musical terminology. It also reflects the tradition of using puns and idioms to pass down wisdom in a memorable way. In a church setting, this phrase could take on an additional layer of meaning, encouraging people to be true to themselves and their faith. Ultimately, this phrase highlights how language, music, and life lessons can intertwine, showing how humor can be used as both entertainment and a means of imparting wisdom.

Date_of_performance: 2/24/25
Language: English
Nationality: American
Occupation: Teacher
Primary Language: English
Residence: San Francisco, CA

Proverbs of Friendships

Nationality: Korean- American, Indigenous
Age: 19
Occupation: Student
Residence: Los Angeles, California
Language: English

Text: A Friend to All is a Friend to None

Context: Informant is a diehard Taylor Swift fan who can recognize and recite most of her discography. When asked if they knew any proverbs, informant immediately began thinking of certain lines they have heard in Swift’s music. Informant then recited, in a melodic fashion, “A friend to all is a friend to none,” from Swift’s song Cardigan. Informant describes that this proverb seems too old- fashioned to use in daily speech. However, they do describe the application of its message to daily life. Being a college student, Informant describes how this proverb allows them to understand and stay precautious of relationship dynamics at a large university. The informant describes that their choice to withhold certain information from certain people, being fearful they may tell it to others, it rooted in this proverb.

Analysis: I believe this proverb, and the specific interaction in which it was brought up, offers many insights into the modern distribution of folklore. Music, especially on a mass scale, has the ability to distribute messages to large groups. These folk groups are specific, however, as they are all listeners of the genre. It is also interesting to note that this proverb was recited in a manner very similar to how it was sung in the song. This preservation of oral- tradition may be unique to music, at least in terms of large scale distribution, as the audience canonizes this specific rendition. This proverb, and its non-melodic oicotypes, are likely to become more popular as technology advances because of the modern ease of spreading information. Especially within the youth populations, social media has become a primary means of forming and destroying relationships. As a people, we value trust. Social media has the ability to violate this trust at an unprecedented speed, allowing this proverb to be even more important now than it was in the past.

Memorate: A Coworker’s Ghostly Encounter

Context:

Informant N is the collector’s supervisor in the technology department of USC SCA. He is 27 years old and grew up in Denver, Colorado until age 7, when he moved to Sandpoint, Idaho. His father’s family is from the “deep south,” and his mother was “an army brat” who lived mostly near the east coast. N’s family has been in the US “since the mayflower,” and his ancestry is mostly German, Northern English, and Welsh. He now lives in Los Angeles, CA and is a singer/songwriter, as well as an employee of the film school’s technology services.

Text:

Informant: “Okay so when I was a kid, my mom – in the first floor, this was like a three story house, the house was like a hundred years old if not more. Um, classic brick style home, it was in Denver. And there was a doctor who lived in the house with his um… I think she was a distraught person, probably back then. Like she probably had some mental illness that was untreated and you know, back then they kind of skewed those people into obscure…”

Collector: “What year was this?”

Informant: “Oh this was like 30s (…). So she was a well-known pianist at the time and she eventually committed suicide in the house and the house was also a historical site. So the house is old, there have been people who lived there who had some musical connection and there was the suicide and you know… There was a couple times growing up where I would hear the piano play and my sister would hear the piano play while we were upstairs and my mom wasn’t home playing the piano nor was my dad or whatever, or we had a babysitter at the time. So there was just a couple weird moments in that house where the piano would be playing and we’d go downstairs and it would stop playing so whether that’s true or not I don’t know but I remember it and my sister clearly remembers it and to this day it’s very bizarre to me and it makes me feel a little… (*informant trails off*)”

Collector: “How did you find out about the woman who died?”

Informant: “My parents – my mom found out about it after they bought the house. The history of the house.”

Collector: “From who?”

Informant: “I think from a neighbor’s family or something. (…) It was like a local thing so it was kind of weird. (…) The piano that was in the house was over a hundred years old at the time.”

The informant also mentioned that his sister, who was 8 or 9 at the time of the piano incidents, is “still perturbed” by them to this day. He also mentioned that he experienced what he called “typical ghost stuff” – that he would hear dogs barking at nothing, and that one of the room’s in the house (his sister’s room) was specifically colder than others. His family checked and made sure that “the piano wasn’t a player” piano (a self-playing piano), and noted that the music he heard was notably classical, and that the woman who had died was a classical pianist.

Interpretation:

N’s ghost story seems pretty typical upon first glance, but I find it interesting because of both his personal context and folkloric trends in memorates. For one thing, the informant seems to truly believe that all of this happened and that something supernatural was going on because his sister also experienced it. He mentioned her multiple times throughout the story and when he was providing more context, and we’ve talked a number of times about how people tend to believe what their peers, family, friends, etc do. What’s more, his family heard about the woman who supposedly died in the house from a neighbor, making this particular figure almost a local legend. While I wouldn’t label her a full-on urban legend for lack of popularity or name, the story about her being mentally unstable and her death in the house is legend-like. She has the traits of one as a woman believed to be mentally unwell and responsible for a haunted area. The apparent ghost is not necessarily true, but there is a negotiation of sorts about whether to believe it for the informant, his family, and his neighbors. This woman’s story lines up with a lot of what we know about ghosts – having unfinished business of some sort (to play music for others), hauntings that happen when things don’t go as they should (her suicide), and the idea that ghosts’ have property even after death (the piano). This story is definitely a memorate for the informant, who seems unsure whether he believes in ghosts entirely, but is fairly convinced that something happened in this house, and still finds it inexplicable and bizarre 20 years later.