Category Archives: Rituals, festivals, holidays

Mangalsutra Necklace

Text: 

“This is a known Hindu wedding tradition and one that my family follows as well. During the wedding, we have a tradition where the groom ties a necklace called the Mangalsutra around the bride’s neck. The Mangalsutra is a special necklace that has different designs but is generally made of black and gold beads that are uniquely decorated on the necklace.” 

“What is the significance of the necklace?”

“It represents the grooms commitment to the marriage, and shows that as long as the necklace is worn, the bond between the bride and the groom will stay strong”

Context: 

“My informant is a classmate of mine who grew up in the United States, but has Hindu parents from India. He says that when he gets married, he intends to carry the tradition and give his wife a Mangalsutra necklace. He says that his parents have a very strong bond, and that to him, the Mangalsutra represents the bond between his parents that he would want to have with his wife someday. 

Analysis: 

The tradition of the Mangalsutra is very similar to the prominent marriage tradition of exchanging wedding rings between the bride and groom. Because of this, the Mangalsutra necklace not only symbolizes the commitment and connection between the bride and groom, but its similarity with other traditions suggests that assigning such meanings to exchanged objects is a concept that supersedes an individual culture. Additionally, the fact that my informant did not grow up in a Hindu community shows that the relationships we have with family are crucial aspects to the significance of rituals and traditions. While the Mangalsutra more broadly represents the commitment and bond of a marriage in Hindu culture, to my informant, the association of the Mangalsutra with the marriage between his parents causes the Mangalsutra to represent a personalized connection between his parents that he hopes to recreate with his wife in the future. 

Mid Autumn Festival

My informant usually celebrates this with family, and the date depends on the lunar calendar, but is typically in the autumn and is always the night of a full moon.

During this festival you typically gaze at and appreciate the moon and eat mooncakes. Mooncakes are typically sweet pastries but they can be savory with a variety of different fillings from date to a sweet nut paste to lotus paste and salted egg yolk.

This festival is celebrated because of a Chinese myth with many variations. The basic story is that a woman ended up drinking an immortality elixir that would have brought her to heaven, but her husband was still on earth. Because of this she chose to live on the moon instead so in the mid autumn festival, moon gazing is like how every year the husband would eat mooncakes and look for his wife on the moon. Due to this, the festival is generally a family activity.

The story itself can depend but in a few variations my informant is pretty sure that they were once gods, but the husband had to shoot down several suns (which were the children of the emperor of the sky) and as punishment the couple were turned into humans. However, they received the elixir at some point and wanted to split it to be together, but they had to wait until the full moon for the effect to work, but one month the husband was away and someone attacked the wife for the elixir so she drank it so the attacker wouldn’t get it.

This festival is based on a myth based on the cycles of the moon. Not only is the meaning based on the moon, but the food eaten is also moon based

Lunar New Year

My informant usually does not do as much as some other people may do on Lunar New Year because her parents are immigrants and the culture is not as strong here, but they typically have a large spread of different foods that are typically eaten during New Years and they eat together while watching the official Chinese broadcast of the Lunar New Year celebrations. They usually wear something red, as it is a lucky color and in old Chinese legends, it was one of the things that scared away a monster. Depending on the year, they might also have family friends over for a potluck.

My informant would celebrate on the lunar New Year’s Eve, the day of Lunar New Year, and the celebration lasts for 15 days after the first day. The 15th day is the lantern festival and she eat tangyuan for good fortune. In China, this celebration is a holiday so most people go home to celebrate. However, my friend lives in the United States, so they usually celebrate on their own, have friends come over and video call their extended family. They perform this because they believe it will bring their family good fortune over the next year. Each food item has special symbols, like fish being a homophone for a surplus or wealth, for good fortune as well as other things to “beckon” good fortune, health and general wishes for wellbeing in.

Such things include red outside the house. Firecrackers are also used because of an old myth that a monster kept attacking a village and the village realized they could use the color red and firecrackers to scare the monster away.

It appears that this tradition is widely practiced and based heavily on old myths and is adaptable even outside of the region that the tradition originated from. While the ritual may have changed as the United States does not have a holiday everywhere for Lunar New Year and they are further from their extended family, they found a way to celebrate and continue to complete this good fortune ritual and celebrate.

Candle Dancing

Whenever my informant’s Indonesian family members would visit, her mom would watch candle dancing with them. When asked about what a candle dance is, she replied that it is a graceful Indonesian dance where they would hold candles and it is a ritual they would do together whenever they met up.

She says that she herself had never seen a candle dance, but her mom would talk about it and how she thought it was the most beautiful thing growing up, and that her mom always looked forward to watching the dances.

This ritual appears to be something nostalgic and done more to remember and connect with an identity rather than something religious.

A Long Neck Means Good Fortune

My informant told me about how her grandmother said that if you have a very long neck, it is a sign that you will be successful. Her grandmother would tell this to her sister, who had a long neck. My informant does not believe in it however. Her grandmother had a lot of random proverbs, so even though she Is open to it, she doesn’t think of it as a law. My informant also told me that she did not have a long neck, and thus she was more inclined not to believe in the fortune her grandmother gave her sister.

It seems as if this proverb is the conclusion of a ritual of fortune telling her grandmother does. Whether it is believed or not seems irrelevant as the simple words boost the confidence of the individual with a long neck.